A little late for this year, but I came across some great resources on the Baptist Peace Fellowship website including this bidding prayer that captures some of the ambiguity of the day...

A BIDDING PRAYER

aware of the voices clamouring to be heard on Remembrance Day:

those who demand that gratitude be shown to those who have made the supreme sacrifice and given lives for sovereign and country

those to whom this is irrelevant past history

those who wish to remember and expect others to do so

those to who, today is but a re-opening of wounds and a delay in healing

those who glory in war and those who loathe it

those who see war as a cruel necessity and those who see it as an evil in which no-one should participate

deliver us all from an insensitive polarising of attitudes.