Two days in ancient Egypt and we are getting to know our fellow travellers quite well.  Fifteen children have joined us and seem to be getting along well together.

I am always fascinated by the assumptions about children's spirituality and understanding.  never more so than when it is assumed that "churched" (horrid verb, 'to church') have so much more insight than those who have not had this process done to them.

Today the video extract began with Benjamin and Jacob expressing their sadness over the loss of Joseph and Rachel; Jacob even had a good psalm-style rant at God.  Not very accurate Bibilically, but I'm sure with a ring of authenticity.  This brief scene obviously struck home with one little girl, who when we got to prayers at the end of the morning asked if we could pray for children who don't have Mummies or Daddies.  She has no church background, unlike one boy who knows the answers to every question and, after bouncing about happily all morning asked that we could pray for him as he has a cold.  Maybe he had, but I'm not convinced!  I know which one I feel had the depth of understanding and had grown through being with us today.  But then there is the additional challenge of how we help our churchy children move from head knowledge and even professed faith to spiritual growth and maturity.  Answers on the back of a camel please!

Today one of my Church Members turns 75 and announces his engagement - cause for celebration.  His fiancee has been coming to church for several months now and already takes an active part in our life together - plus she nods, smiles and frowns at the right places in my sermons, so at least I know someone is awake!  He is very keen for her to become a member once they have married, and I think that she is quite keen too.

Tomorrow we will celebrate with tea and cake (M&S celebration cakes at £9.99 a go are becoming a regular feature!).  The girl on the till in M&S thought it was wonderful when I told her what it was for, and it is.  So often we bemoan the reluctance of young people to enter committed troth relationships, yet how often do we actually celebrate with those (of any age) who do?

This couple's romance has brought delight to their lives, and I wish them a blessed future together. The marriage preparation stuff might be entertaining all ways round but I am looking forward to their wedding in January when we once more borrow a church building (D+2) and celebrate together.

More seriously, I am trying to find some suitable membership material - I have most BUGB and BUS stuff but it tends to assume either youth or ignorance of Christian basics.  Does anyone know of anything suitable for a thinking 70 year old?

The Dibley Manse looks like a cross between a jumble sale, a craft shop and ancient Egypt - all in the cause of mission!  To the left you can see the Amazing Pyramid at Dibley, flanked by a Sellafield Palm, the only variety able to grow to the height of a pyramid!

In just over a week we will be running our Churches Together Holiday Club - an initiative now in its third year and involving churches of three flavours.  It will be at St Smells & Bells and looks like being our best attended yet with around 30 registration packs sent out.  We are doing Pyramid Rock this year's SU offering, though with our own slant on various aspects.  Our children will be between 3 and 11 years old - a deliberate shift since we discovered that many parents were not registering their children because they also had a toddler; for under 5's a responsible adult must stay all session (sneaky - free washers up and new contacts!) and it looks as if it has paid off.

St S&B have been very accommodating, allowing us to take out the chairs and use church essentially as a hall, so there will be tinsel palm trees strung from the rafters, inflatable palm trees and a gazebo at the entrance, a sand pit in the nave and craft materials all over the place.  Hopefully, the leaders will enter into the spirit and don the Egyptian style wigs!

We are looking forward to a fun, if exhausting time, as a motley crew of adults and children explore the Joseph story.  It seems a little sad to think that in another year St S&B won't be here as venue, since it is the most central we have yet used.  Nevertheless, it is good to see how out of adversity has been born a meaningful ecumenism that might never otherwise have existed.  As they used to say in the north west, God works in H M Prison, Manchester (Strangeways).

Summer is nearly over and as September begings to be glimpsed over the horizon, things start stirring again in Dibley.

Our courtship with D+1 resumes in September with a joint meeting of all our members - the concept of 'open church meetings' has yet to reach this corner of the world, which may or may not be a good thing.  Towards the end of September we will gather at 'D+2' and their minister will chair our discussions.  It seems a good next step, no decision making, just an open forum to share conversation and raise issues for debate. 

One of my deacons, on being told of the date, revealed that summer is to be equated with amnesia, as he saw this is a totally new initiative, not something we'd agreed to back in June!  In an email he shared his views on the whole thing and then suggested that if we did consider a merger we should have 'a trial period first before committing to it.'  I am suitably shocked - a deacon proposing that we (the churches) should live together without being in a covenant relationship.  What is the world coming to!

Whilst I can, at one level, see his point, I can't help feeling that the marriage analogy holds even in this aspect - at some point we have to decide 'yes' or 'no' just as a courting couple move from courtship to commitment.  Churches take a very dim view of couples who cohabit prior to marriage (i.e. who enter a 'trial period' to see if it'll work).  Most of our angst seems to be over what takes place in the bedroom, but we are never entirely happy when an engaged couple move into a house even days before the marriage ceremony because we feel it's 'not quite right'.  I can't help feeling that a similar caution should exist with church congregations -since we are ultimately talking about human relationships, albeit of a different nature.  I am not quite sure what might constitute the ecclesial equivalent of pre-nuptial sex - we claim communion is one of our most intimate expressions of faith yet gladly 'commune around' so to speak.  Perhaps the concerns of my deacon are more akin to discovering that your partner leaves the top off the toothpaste, wet towels on the bathroom floor and the loo seat up/down!

If living together is about seeing if the irritations and tensions are too great to make life-long commitment sustainable (i.e. not about sex, which let's face it does not need a shared home) then maybe my deacon has a point - but this may have implications for our attitudes to couples who do likewise.  Similarly, if we are of the view that a couple must eventually decide to marry (or not) without a trial run, surely we should be consistent in our potential ecclesial marriage?  It seems to me that at some point, both we and D+1 will need to make some important decisions.  First an 'engagement' or "betrothal" where we begin to work out the details of what marriage might mean: where we might live, what shape our new family will take, etc.  Then a 'marriage' when (if) we decide to go for it: the point at which we say, we'll never know until we do it, we're both committed to making this work so let's go for it.

I am fairly confident that if a cohabiting couple arrived at my church several eyebrows would be raised, and people would feel that if they were committed they really ought to marry.  I am also fairly confident that we would be less ready to take the plunge with D+1.  I am not entirely sure how good the parallels are, but I do wonder how much we operate different standards (and please, gentle, reader, no lectures on sexual ethics, I am merely thinking about the concepts of commitment, covenant and risk taking that apply to all 'troth' relationships).

But don't get too excited, we are still in a very formal, well behaved courtship as yet, so no need to worry that we might do something to raise the ecclesial eyebrows just yet!

I am now in the process of preparing a three service series using Brueggemann's categorisation of the Psalms, and this week it is the 'Psalms of Orientation' for which I am using Psalm 19 which encapsulates two of his 'certainties' or 'givens' - the natural order and Torah.  This got me thinking quite a lot about concepts of 'law' as used by scientists and as used by society. 

Scientific laws endeavour to express something that is 'given' about the way things in the natural world behave - we don't see an object fall under gravity and instantly mutter (for example) 'v squared equals u squared plus 2 a s' (let alone the ones that actually relate to gravity and I have long ago forgotten!), rather we accept this 'law' as a given, something that is dependable, reliable and unchanging, something that provides the stability and order needed for life.  Implicit in the logic of Psalm 19 seems to be something of this - it is the predictability of the 'heavenly bodies' that points beyond themselves to a God of order and stability.

Societal laws on the other hand often have a feeling of prohibition about them, and seem increasingly to be drawn up in response to something that has gone wrong - for example the recent laws on possession of knives or holding suspects without charge.  What I think that Brueggemann is saying is that Torah is not this kind of negative law, based on prohibition, but actually something a bit more akin to the laws of science which can almost be deduced from the order and stability that result.  Rather then constraining behaviour, Torah is liberating and enriching - Psalm 19 speaks of it bringing joy to the heart, revival to the soul, light to the eyes.  This is far from an 'anything goes' view, for that would be disordered, but it offers a more positive alternative to the legalism that Jesus criticised in the religious people of his day and that, sadly, characterises so much of church life today. 

If the essence of Torah is as much a 'given' as the fact that night follows day, and if the lives of Christians could reflect this, then I guess we'd be approaching utopia.  Life of course is never so simple, and this is where the psalms of disorientation and reorientation come into play.  What I think is a reasonable deduction though, is that both the created order and the Torah point us to a God who is dependable, reliable and consistent rather than one who is capricious and variable.  Such 'givens' are things that we tend not to think about, but they are the essential backdrop against which our lives take place.  Just as I can expect cows to moo, grass to be green and the sun to rise, so I can expect God to be.

I have no idea what my good people will make of my thoughts but it has been helpful for me to revisit my understanding of 'law' in a way that moves beyond mandates and prohibitions to means of order and stability.

Brueggemann speaks of the 'canopy of certainty', Africans apparently have a metaphor of God (or maybe of faith) as an umbrella.  Some concept of a secure, dependable 'domain' (in its scientific/mathematical meaning) seems to be consistent with these ideas.