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A Skinny Fairtrade Latte in the Food Court of Life - Page 693

  • Two Issues; One Response

    There are two topics, more than any other, that people ask me about.  One is human sexuality, the other is end-of-life and euthanasia.  On one I have accepted the discipline of the Baptist Unions and will direct you at books you might find helpful if you want to think seriously about it.  On the other I can offer my views - not 'the' Baptist view, just mine.

    I make no value judgements about the rights of other people to determine how their life ends, and there are Christian arguments that can be made for euthanasia understood as assisted dying, but for me, it is not something to be considered.  If someone I knew did elect to end their life - or have it ended - in this way, of course I would conduct a funeral for them and treat them exactly the same as anyone else.  A while ago when someone asked me what I thought, my response was roughly thus:

    Death is simply a door from this life to the life of eternity (however that is understood by the individual) and what most people really seem to want is someone to walk with them to that door.  We all know we have to go through the door alone but to approach it alone is frightening and we just need someone to accompany us that far.  The 'goodbye' or 'farewell' at or near the door is different for different people.  Just as in any parting, some will quickly say 'bye' and be on their way, others will linger on the doorstep for a while, a few will sneak off when we aren't looking.  Some people stand on the step waving and waving until their friend has disappeared from view, others close the door swiftly.  My, relatively limited, experience, is that people, even people in tremendous pain don't actually want someone to open the door and push them through it, they simply want someone to be alongside them as they prepare to grasp the handle.  Some people 'choose' to die with others around them, some 'choose' to die alone (how often does someone die just after their last longed for visitor has left?).  I also believe, though cannot prove it, that in these circumstances people don't die until those left behind are able to cope with their loss - whether that is determined by God or by the dying person is a moot point.

    One of the greatest privileges of ministry is being one of those who walks towards that door alongside other people.  To share a last communion ('food for the journey' or viaticum of you're more sacramental than I am) is precious and can be helpful in 'giving permission' to go through the door (ministers sometimes find ourselves seen as 'gentle angels of death' in this context).  But in the end we have to step aside and let go, the last hug, the last whispered 'farewell.'  For me, attempts to hasten that moment, or to pre-meditate it would be inappropriate - death is a mystery in the true, theological, sense of the word and should be allowed to remain so.

    Now I know there are many and complex issues.  I know I've ignored murder and accident.  I know that life gets 'artificially' prolonged.  I know that even having thoughts on this is the privilege of wealthy western society.  Just that I get asked about it quite a lot.

    Don't try reading anything into this, there's nothing to read in, except that there's a lot of death, terminal illness and chronic incurable conditions in the lives of people I know and love right now, and the question gets asked, 'what do you think, Catriona?'

  • The Feast of St Martha

    martha.jpgEvidently today is the feast of St Martha of Bethany... to my warped brain it seems a slightly strange idea that she would have a feast day especially given the bad press the church has generally given her throughout history.  But actually, I find myself rather pleased that she does get a feast day, a day to be feted and celebrated for who she was.

    Those of you who have read this stuff for a while will know that I get very uppity about portrayals of Martha that are based on a poor synthesis of the Luke 10 and John 12 stories... OK so Martha was distracted but it doesn't say she was cooking dinner at the time.  And I also stress (ad nauseam) that in John 11 (the raising of Lazarus) it is Martha who names Jesus as Messiah.  I have blogged various explorations and reflections on this trio of stories, which I won't repeat here.  Suffice it to say, I am something of a Martha fan.

    Without the 'Marthas' (and her 'sons') our churches would be in dire trouble... we depend so heavily on those who bake and make tea and polish brass and arrange flowers and move chairs and sweep steps and empty bins and, and, and... I get rather huffy with people who perceive themselves as too spiritual to muck in with the practical tasks, especially on a Sunday.  But actually, I like the idea of a feast day for Martha and her descendants, a day when they can sit down, enjoy a bit of TLC and be celebrated for who they are and what they bring.

    Martha, sit down a moment...

    No, not on that hard, kitchen chair, here in the soft welcome of the settee.

    Martha, take a moment for yourself...

    Put down the tea-towel, the duster, the broom; pick up a book or gaze through the window

    Martha, have a little refreshment...

    No, not the healthy apple or the plain biscuit, choose the sumptuous richness of Belgian chocolate or cream-filled gateau

    Martha, take a moment to indulge...

    Lay aside the list of jobs to be done, people to be helped; daydream, reflect, meditate, be

    Martha this is your moment, your day...

    No, not a recollection of your distractedness, but a celebration of your authenticity

    Martha, homemaker, theologian*, sister, disciple...

    We pause for a moment to see yourself in us, and to accept ourselves as we are, image bearers of the God of Jesus Christ, unique, loved, welcomed.

     

    * Check John 11 for the theological discussion she had with Jesus at her brother's grave-side!

    Picture of Martha borrowed from here

  • I never noticed that before...

    A comment I often find myself making when I work with a passage or diea for a sermon.

    Today I've been working with Luke 15 and 16 ahead of Sunday's service, and, having been reminded of Luke's theme of the ptokoj (the poor), have been trying to read the parables in that light.  As I neared the last sentence of my draft sermon, I recalled the verse "the poor will always be with you" and tried to recall where it came from.  Three of the gospels have it; Luke is not one of them.  Hmmm.

    OK, so everyone else already knew that, but I hadn't spotted it until now.

  • Dangerous Reporting

    Usually I quite like the BUGB e-news sweep, it is often useful and sometimes funny.  Today it made me swear.  Now you have to appreciate I don't often do swearing, it's not in my make-up!  So why did it make me swear?  Because it linked a Daily Mail article with these words:

    Miracle? Cancer-stricken father defies odds and beats disease by stopping chemo - because God told him to

    With a ten per cent chance of survival, he needed a miracle - and that's exactly what God gave him

    Now I am delighted for the man (in the US by the way) that his cancer has been healed, and I am prepared to accept that for some reason God chose to heal him, but for goodness sake let's be a bit responsible here.  How many Christians (or other people of faith) don't get 'healed' of their cancer (most) how many suffer excruciatingly until they die of secondaries (many) and how many live with the pressure of OPE that God will supernaturally heal them (more than a few).  For crying out loud, God gave us the skills of oncology and surgery and radiotherapy for a reason.

    So listen up folks (I'm quite wound up, you can tell!) God has given me more through having cancer and being treated for it than any miracle healing would ever have done.  I've met amazing people, I've learned a lot about cancer, about myself, about others, about life, about faith.  I'd like to think, though physcially scarred, and with a 30% chance of still being here in a decade, that I am a more whole person now.

    So please, do not throw away your chemo, your radiotherapy, your hormone therapy, your screening appointment card.

    Today a friend of the Gathering Place is laid to rest after cancer claimed her life... she has ultimate healing as she enters eternal rest.

    If praying is your thing, please pray for those whose work is caring for people with cancer or researching into into its causes and treatments

    And if you want a miracle, then please pray for Annie who is 27, has aggressive stage 4 b.c. and exploring every option she can as she chooses life in its fulness (however long or short that may be).  Chemo and prayer - now that seems a much better mix to me.

    BUGB e-news sweep I forgive you... even 70 x 7...

    Rant Ends!

  • Funny Old Week

    It has been a fiunny old week - why weeks become 'old' in this context I don't quite know, but there you go.  It has been one of those 'the whole of life is here' weeks, one in which the interruptions are the ministry and the sermon/service prep is incidental (it's Thursday and I know what I want to speak about, just haven't got anything on paper yet).

    It has been a ministry of...

    drinking tea and coffee, eating lunch, sending and receiving emails on diverse and sometimes complex pastoral and pracitcal matters, answering the phone, sorting through cupboards, finding craft activities, reading, dancing with joy, wondering 'why?', standing alongside those who weep, thinking 'should I?', laughing, sharing...

    Yup, a funny old week, but one that serves to remind me why this is what I am, who I am, maybe even why I am.

    Now I need to start playing catch-up!!