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A Skinny Fairtrade Latte in the Food Court of Life - Page 524

  • Little Things Mean a Lot

    Today I was at the funeral of another of my younger bc friends - another young woman unfortunate enough to have aggressive triple negative breast cancer, which ran its course in less than two years.  It was the second humanist 'ceremony' I've attended in recent weeks, and I am not a fan, for reasons I will post in a separate reflection, but I did appreciate this poem, new to me, which was read out, called The Dash:

    The Dash

    by Linda Ellis copyright 1996

    I read of a man who stood to speak
    at the funeral of a friend.
    He referred to the dates on her tombstone,
    from the beginning…to the end.

    He noted that first came the date of her birth
    and spoke of the following date with tears,
    but he said what mattered most of all
    was the dash between those years.

    For that dash represents all the time
    that she spent alive on earth.
    And now only those who loved her
    know what that little line is worth.

    For it matters not, how much we own,
    the cars…the house…the cash.
    What matters is how we live and love
    and how we spend our dash.

    So, think about this long and hard.
    Are there things you’d like to change?
    For you never know how much time is left
    that can still be rearranged.

    If we could just slow down enough
    to consider what’s true and real
    and always try to understand
    the way other people feel.

    And be less quick to anger
    and show appreciation more
    and love the people in our lives
    like we’ve never loved before. 

    If we treat each other with respect
    and more often wear a smile,
    remembering that this special dash
    might only last a little while.

    So, when your eulogy is being read,
    with your life’s actions to rehash…
    would you be proud of the things they say
    about how you spent YOUR dash?

    Copyright Linda Ellis
    ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

    From http://lindaellis.net/the-dash/the-dash-poem-by-linda-ellis/

    I do not believe the 'dash' is all we have, but nonetheless, I like the sentiment that we maximise its worth.

    RIP Caroline, free from pain, held safe in everlasting love.

  • Sometimes I wake up Grumpy...

    ... and sometimes I let him/her carry on sleeping.  Boom, boom, tish! 

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    As I look back over this week, I know I have been somewhat grumpy in what I've said or how I've said it.  I could make excuses, or even identify reasons, but that's not the point, I have been grumpy and some people will have felt the impact of that.

    So, to any readers who feel they have been grumped at, I am sorry.  I will try harder not to let my grumpiness flow out into public prose or private conversations.  And I will also seek to address the sources of grumpiness so that I don't get so grumpy!

  • One Step Behind...

    My sabbatical research into 'public faith and private pain' has now gone 'live' and responses are coming in, for which I am very grateful.  Already two separate people have alerted me to a newly published book called Soul Pain: Priests Reflect on Personal Experience of Serious and Terminal Illness, Edited by Jennifer Tann pub. Canterbury Press 2013.  As the title suggests, it relates to pretty much the same the same interface/question but is approached via a collection of essays in which Anglican priests reflect on their experiences.

    A decade ago when I did my undergrad research on single people's experiences of church, a book was published about two weeks before my submission date that covered almost identical ground, and I had frantically to amend my work to note its existence and to explain why I had not included it in my reflections.

    Sometimes I wonder if I am always one step behind God's Spirit (as distinct from keeping in step with God's Spirit) or is it maybe that the ripples need time to spread and I am always a little way from the epicentre?  Either way, the book will be a valuable input to my thinking and serves as confirmation that the time is ripe for these questions to be explored.

  • Sight to the Inward Blind

    This morning's PAYG centred on the healing of Bartimaeus, a blind man who asked Jesus to restore his sight.  So he was man whose sight had failed, not a man born blind; he knew what he had lost and he wanted it back.  One of the things the listener was invited to do was to reflect on areas of spiritual blindness they would like Jesus to heal, and it struck me that you could actually only ask for restoration of 'spiritual sight' you had once had and now lost, or the gift of 'spiritual sight' you had become aware of in others... you had to know your blindness in order to ask for it to be removed.  This brought to kind mind the once very popular (maybe it still is) Johari Window:

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    There may be aspects of my spiritual sight (or health) that are I am aware of and others I am not aware of; likewise areas of spiritual blindness.  There are some that others are aware of and others they aren't aware of.  So long as I or others are aware of them, then work to 'open the eyes of the heart (or mind)' is possible.  But there is the unknown unknown - the spiritual blindness (or sight) of which I am unaware and so are others... only God is aware of it.  Prayer then becomes 'please give me the sight I don't know I lack'... but how will I know whether or when I have it?  It's a conundrum!!  But it does seem like the crucial prayer.

     

    God who sees what none can see,

    Who knows what non can know

    Give me sight, where I do not know I am blind

    Wisdom, where I do not know I am unwise

    Love, where I do not know my emptiness

    Open the Johari Window of my soul

    To receive your life-giving light

    Amen

  • Managing Interfaces

    There are many interfaces that have to be managed in ministry, some are more complex than others, and some are more open to misundertsanding and misinterpretation than others.  Sometimes I wish language was more precise and less prone to changing its meaning over time.  The 'theological integrity' - 'pastoral pragmatism' interface is a tricky one, and there are no absolute answers on which way one should err; rather it has to be a case-by-case consideration, avoiding knee-jerks, entrenchment, stubborness and emotional responses.

    Perhaps the way we tend to lean depends on personality - whether we are more 'head', 'heart' or 'gut' people.  Perhaps it is shaped by experience, how similar negotiations were, or were not, played out in other contexts.  Perhaps it is somehow tied up with issues of power and authority - not just who shouts the loudest, but who is permitted to make which calls.

    Anyway, the last few days have seen me once again managing this interface, trying to hold together creatively pastoral and theological aspects, my experiences elsewhere, others' experiences here, matters of personality and persuasion in relation to something very specific and potentially very exciting... It is demanding and tiring work, and the outcome may well not reflect that in any great degree - but maybe that's the point, that the outcome seems somehow natural and normal, effortless and obvious.

    I believe and trust that God has been moving the hearts and minds of all involved in this bit of interface wrangling, and that the proposed outcome is good.

    I debated whether or not to post this, since among my readers are some of those involved, and undoubtedly others who will wonder what on earth I am talking about.  It is all good stuff, nothing controversial or heretical (or no more heretical than usual anyway) and I think I have learned quite a lot through it.  Posting has involved me trying to manage another interface - the public-private one, and risking getting that horribly wrong.  In deciding to post, my aim is simply to demonstrate just something of the complex, and usually invisible aspects of pastoral ministry.

    So, to Gatherers reading this - you'll have to wait and see, but there is nothing to fear and much to look forward to.  And non-Gatherers, well, you'll just have to wait and see too!